Children are not gregarious, parents do not have to worry, do not like gregarious children have these advantages

I believe that when children go to school, many parents are very worried about their children's social skills. They are always afraid that their children will be isolated and unsociable in school.

In real life, many children who are not sociable are educated by their parents to become a popular person. If the children often behave very lonely, it will certainly have a certain impact on the future of the children. This idea of parents is correct, but if they are sociable in order to make the children sociable, will it also affect their psychological development?

My best friend's son is five years old. When he was in kindergarten, he didn't like to play with other children. My best friend was very worried about her child's performance, because she wanted her son to be a person with high social EQ, and was afraid that if his son didn't communicate with other people all the time, how could he integrate into the new school and new class when he grew up?

Moreover, the kindergarten teacher once told her best friend that when the child goes to the kindergarten, he likes to play games alone. When he does things alone, he doesn't like to play with other children. He also wants her best friend to take the child to the hospital to see if he is autistic.

In fact, the performance of my best friend's son is not as exaggerated as the teacher imagined, because there is no problem for my son to communicate with his family after he goes home. He can also talk and laugh and fight. However, he seldom communicates with other children in school, so my best friend has to take his son to the hospital.

Results the doctor said that the child did not suffer from autism, the child's psychology is purely because they like a person to do their own things, so they seem particularly isolated, and told their friends not to worry, the child's performance proves that the child's IQ is relatively high.

There are many reasons why children are not sociable. Let's take a look at the three main reasons?

There is a tendency to be autistic

Children in school are not gregarious, there are social barriers, and their own interests are also particularly narrow, only interested in some things, then this shows that children have autism tendency.

When parents communicate with their children, they can feel that their children's language development is relatively slow, sometimes the meaning is not clear, which means that the child has a slight autism. When the child has such behavior, parents should take the child to see a doctor.

Too focused

We all know that every child has its own characteristics. Some children are naturally lively in appearance, but some children are quiet and don't like to talk. However, we can't judge a child with depression just by this characteristic.

If parents find that their children's social skills are poor and they don't like to be sociable, there is also a reason that their children are too focused when they do things. They like to complete what they like to do by themselves, which only shows that their children's attention is relatively high.

I have my own ideas

I believe that every parent hopes that their children will have their own opinions and will not drift with the tide. Generally speaking, the children who have their own opinions will also be out of group.

When playing with other people, when there are differences, these children can stick to their own views and will not change for the sake of the majority, so we may find that these children do not want to participate in other children's games.

However, for the children themselves, they don't feel uncomfortable. They just want to finish what they are interested in.

So what are the advantages of children who are not sociable?

Strong emotion control ability

If we find that children often play alone, we will find that such children's emotion management ability is better, because they will not be disturbed by other people's emotions, and they can live a good life by themselves.

On the contrary, children who especially love to get together will have poor emotional control ability, because they are easily shaken by other people's words. When they find that they have different opinions with others, they will be afraid that they will not be accepted, and they will be wronged to join others.

They have their own stand and principles

Children who don't like to get together like to focus on what they are doing, and they have a set of standards and principles for doing things by themselves, so they won't be easily controlled by other people's emotions and ideas.

When they encounter things they don't like, their first reaction is to refuse directly, and they won't lower their standards to cater to others. Moreover, these children have a firm attitude towards many things.