How to judge whether a friend should make friends, recognize these points, let you benefit

In many people's lives, the most scared sentence should be "are you there?" Well, it's not that I'm afraid of this sentence, but that I'm afraid of the person who uttered it and what I'm going to say to you next. For example, if your boss asks you if you are in at the weekend, once you reply, the next sentence is to work overtime at the weekend. Can you still pretend that you are not in at this time? There are friends or classmates who haven't been in touch for a long time. Originally, they just exist in each other's list, but suddenly the other side sends a "are you there?" There must be something going on. In the lyrics of Mayday, "I'm afraid of the sudden silence of the air, and I'm afraid of the sudden concern of my friends." maybe this is the best interpretation of this sentence.

So it's very important to make friends. Once you don't make good friends, you may receive a "are you there" from a friend you haven't contacted for a long time? So how can we make clear what kind of friends we shouldn't make? Xiao Bian sorted out a few. First, you should not make friends who often borrow money from you. A person who often borrows money from you either wants to borrow money to buy a famous brand, or he has no reason to control his behavior, or he has no fixed job at all. He has no economic foundation but doesn't work hard. Instead, he borrows money from his friends. Making friends like this will not make you feel positive at all, but will drag you down.

Second, people who like to take advantage of you and take it for granted should not make friends. I experienced such a thing in public, and since then this friend has been blackmailed by me. Well, when I came out for my internship, I finally found a job and sent a circle of friends to celebrate. Then the junior high school friend who had not contacted me for a long time contacted me and said that everyone's work place was very close. I hesitated for a while and agreed because of the feelings of my former classmates. Who knows, during the meal, she said that she didn't have any money with her. She also said loudly that the dishes were not delicious and so expensive. At that time, other diners looked at us, and even the restaurant staff looked at us frequently. I feel very embarrassed to ask her not to talk about this. When I invited her to this meal, I pulled her black after dinner.

Third, friends who always pass negative energy to you and treat you as an emotional trash can should not be made. Some friends always like to take out a very small thing in life that makes her unhappy and tell you. They can't finish it every day. When you have a headache, you have to consider how to comfort her. This feeling really makes life worse than death. There is a saying that there are difficulties, but after sharing the pain of a friend, you can't get any positive feedback. When you are stingy with a thank you, it's better not to have such a friend. Shouldn't friends make progress together, laugh together and suffer together? But such a friend is only full of negative energy to you, there is no happy memory between you, so why make a painful friend?